How To Control Stress And Fear

Four Steps to Conquering Fear and Stress
By Lisa Rickwood

Do you know how to control stress and fear?

Do wish you knew how?

We believe it is possible to take control of those troubling emotions and have the life you dream of! Read how to conquer fear and stress in 4 easy steps.

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Four Steps to Conquering Fear and Stress

Picture this:

You're sitting in a bank foyer, anxiously awaiting a loans officer...

Your heart is pounding; you need the loan to grow your company with additional equipment. As each minute creeps by, you feel your anxiety building.

'What if I don't get the loan?' you think. Suddenly, your brain is filled with a dozen scenarios of doom and gloom for your business. Panic sets in...

Suddenly, the officer appears in front of you and replies, "We're ready for you..."

What do you do when you're stressed and filled with fear?..


You use five key strategies about how to control stress - to help you instantly calm down and control your thoughts.

Stress has a bad rap.

When we mention stress, most of us think of negative stress -lost papers, relationship issues, work issues, finances - the sky's the limit...

What we don't think about is positive stress.

Positive stress may include: moving, new relationships, starting a new career, deadlines, coaches who push us past our comfort zones. Not all stress is bad but it may feel intensely uncomfortable.
Stress starts in the mind, followed by the body. When you place 10 people in a room and expose them to the same stimuli, they will react differently. This is because we're all hard-wired differently and we all come from distinct backgrounds. Our past is what we use to decipher if something is stressful or not.

For example, if you were bit by a large spider when you were seven years-old, you might have a huge fear of spiders. However, if you never had a bad encounter with spiders and found them interesting as a child, you may not have any fear of them whatsoever. The past dictates your stress level but you can break the stress habit. You can learn how to control stress.

When you control your mind, you control the stress. When you control the stress, you are more in control of your actions and the reactions.

Step One: Breathe deep.

When you're faced with a stressful situation, the first thing many of us do is react. We react with emotion and the emotion often hijacks our thoughts. There's no way you can think rationally when you're deathly afraid of a spider in front of you; all you think about is how stressed you are and how you want to get the 'heck out of there'-pronto. Breathing is a simple way how to control stress

When you breathe deep, your breathing slows down and this in turn slows down your thoughts. When you slow down your thoughts, you have space and time to decide how to react ot something.

Recently, I tried an adventure activity called: Monkido...Step Two: Smile.

The brain is designed in such a way that when you smile, you feel a sense of happiness. It's programmed in your DNA as a baby; when you smile, you don't feel stress. If your smile is authentic, it spreads to your thoughts. It's impossible to feel unhappy and stressed when you're smiling. So try this next time you feel the stress monster gaining control. You many need to fake it for a few minutes but your mind will follow your actions.learn to smile, and you learn how to control stress

Step Three: Exercise.

We're all aware of the importance of exercising for health, wellness and longevity but it's extremely important for stress reduction. When you move your body, get your heart rate up and have more blood flow to the mind and body, you decrease your stress. Stress hormones like cortisol, have a chance to be eliminated from the body and the good hormones like endorphins, put you in a happy state of being. It's extremely difficult to feel really stressed after you lift weights and do an intense cardio routine. Learning how to control stress with exercise can also be fun!.Try it and tell me if you're still really stressed after working out.

Step Four: Mindset.

The key to managing stress is managing your mindset and you can do this by the three methods mentioned but also by having a positive mindset. Are you a glass half empty person or a glass half full? Even positive people have things happen that challenge their beliefs but they do go back to being dominantly positive. Positive thinking will eliminate a lot of fears and stress automatically. If you find it hard to be positive, read books, listen to CDs and hang out with people who have a different, more positive mindset from yourself. Coaches, mentors and positive friends will make the difference.

When you apply these four key steps, you'll feel more in control of stress, it won't control you. And the next time you're faced with asking for a loan or dealing with pesky spiders, you'll conquer your fears and minimize stress instantly.

Learning how to control stress is worth the effort!

About the Author:

Lisa Rickwood, BFA, CPCC, is a creative visionary artist, coach and author who helps corporations, companies and individuals minimize stress and overwhelm, increase productivity and be more innovative and creative. To get your FREE Instant Stress Relief Kit visit:Escape the Pace or go to to banish stress immediately.

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